“When it hurts, observe, life is trying to teach you something.” – Anita Krizzan
I read this quote scrolling through my Facebook page and it struck a chord with me more than it normally would. You know those moments in your life where you can fight it all you want but life is trying to force you to practice outwardly, what your inward self has always desired? That’s where I am right now and so rather than sit in pity, I’m turning to the place I know can renew my thoughts and my inner desires.
First, a moment of transparency.
To put into simple words, these past few months have been absolute Hell for me mentally and physically. My body feels like it’s shutting down on me, a different aspect of it, every single day. My mind battles on whether to keep fighting or to just throw in the towel. Those who follow this blog have read about some of these struggles. They don’t end. They evolve each and everyday. But so do the lessons I have learned from it. Lessons that have changed the direction of my life beyond this disease. Lessons I will be able to continue to be in tune with when I overcome this, because damnit, I will overcome this. I’ve never been a “list” type of writer but today my mind is in a start and finish mode and here’s the tips I am continually reminding myself each day.
10 Tips to Overcome Life’s Challenges:
1. Eliminate self-Doubt
As the sun rises each morning, so does my body, fighting against itself to survive another day. Sometimes the thought of overcoming this moment in time seems unbelievably impossible. I have learned that I have to fully convince myself each morning that I am capable of overcoming this, that I deserve to overcome this, and that I want to overcome this.
It is so easy to drift into the paralysis of thinking that a setback in an experience is evidence of the inadequacy of the situation we are in. Furthermore, it’s easy not to be ambitious because of the demon inside us screaming, “You are not good enough.”
2. Replace negativity with gratitude.
When you aim to achieve anything in life, whether it be accomplishing a long-term goal or simply just trying to better yourself, the destructive contribution that negativity provides is always there to try and bring you down. It’s been said that we become the people we surround ourselves with and that includes people that breed negativity. Negativity is contagious. Negative thoughts make it easier to think more negative thoughts, negative actions produce more negative actions, and a negative life produces more negative lives.
On the flip side, if you are unconsciously expressing gratitude for the good in your life, you will constantly be given more to be thankful for. There’s still going to be hard times, or there wouldn’t be anything to be thankful for in the good times, but things won’t seem as bad when you’re trying to focus on the good. When you stop looking for things to complain about and instead focus on the things you have to be thankful for, life will evolve with you and bring more good your way.
3. Stop worrying about everything
Worry is one of the worst states of mind that exists – that fear of the unknown; the fear of something that has not yet even occurred. The reality is, the majority of things that we worry about only exist in our minds. Worrying causes us to lose clarity of where we are and hope in where we want to be. We lose our power to live in the moment. Replacing worried thoughts with proactive actions and positive thinking will dominate any challenge that comes our way.
4. Destroy apathy before it destroys you
Let go of the indifferences in this world. The demons that scream that life doesn’t matter or that achieving greatness is only reserved for people other than yourself. Life does matter. Your life matters in and of itself; it matters simply because you exist.
I’ve always believed the worst emotion a person could feel isn’t malice or hate, rather indifference. Indifference allows us to believe that we not have to be a part of the world to make an impact. Commit yourself with a responsibility to leave this world a better place than the way you found it and soon enough your indifferences will fade into the abyss where they belong.
5. Let go of regret
Life does not allow us to go back in time and reverse things that have already happened so what is the point of regret? Learning to live life without regret does not mean that you don’t care about your decisions or the consequences they will have, rather, it means you will not become a prisoner to the experiences you have already gone through.
If you are living with regret, it is because you didn’t learn from whatever it is that is causing you to feel this torment. Life will continue to provide these learning opportunities until you have learned whatever it that you are meant to. The same situations in life will just repeat wearing a different mask. Regret is only a shortcut way of restricting yourself from the moments you are in now, or the moments you will be in as time goes on. Those “regretful” moments have led you to right here and right now.
6. Forgive yourself
Regardless of the situation or circumstance, learn to forgive yourself. Do this for you. You will feel lighter, love better, and see the world through an entirely different viewpoint. Don’t allow your past experiences to eat you alive. However, don’t ignore your thoughts and emotions or they will catch up to you. Own them – understand them, listen to them. Forgive yourself so that you can heal.
7. Learn to be vulnerable
Being vulnerable is difficult, it can be very hard to open up and allow the world to see pieces of you that sometimes make you uncomfortable, but vulnerability heals. Vulnerability is allowing yourself to show the world who you are and not be ashamed. It’s being proud of yourself and applying the lessons you’ve learned from your past to help others who may be in the same situation.
8. Don’t compromise your mental health
“Learn to love yourself, because you are the one person you can never escape from.”
When you take care of yourself mentally, you are be a better partner, friend, coworker, and overall person. Your relationships will improve and your appreciation for life will expand. You will be able to contribute to your chaotic world in a more meaningful way. I genuinely believe that if we could all be a little more satisfied with the little things in life, then we would all feel more successful and more free in the spaces that we occupy.
9. Change your perspective
The ability to have various outlooks, opinions, and points of view is purely a humanistic quality. Don’t fall into the illusion that you are bound by the way you perceive and comprehend the world around you.
We all have those areas of our life that seem mundane, irritating, and a waste of time. Learn to find joy and pleasure in even the most monotonous undertakings in life and the amazing things around you that you have forgotten about will suddenly reappear more meaningful and significant to your daily routine.
10. Let go of yesterday, learn from today, and embrace tomorrow
Welcome each new day with fresh eyes and renewed energy. Let today challenge you, teach you, inspire you, and evolve you. Let go of your structured layout of what today should look like and embrace whatever it is that is waiting for you that is far more powerful than you could have ever thought possible.
Take the lessons you’ve learned, the people who tried to break you, and the ways you gave up on yourself, and use these pivotal moments as the stepping stones to something far greater. Leave yesterday where it belongs and let purpose come from your pain and experiences.
As time passes, you will understand that each moment is temporary, both the good and the bad. Rising beyond the shattered areas of your circumstance you will see that you are still breathing.
When you look back at a situation you were in or the situation you are currently in, you will soon learn and realize that you came out alright in the end. You’ll see that you made it. You survived something that you thought you would never recover from.
You discover that even at rock bottom, there is hope in tomorrow, and you are strong enough to embrace it.